I was so excited! I had to find out everything I could.
So I delved in deep, and learnt as much as I could about what was going on. Uncovering these patterns had a profound effect not just on my love life, but in ALL areas of my life. I could see how I was holding myself back in work and not showing up fully in friendships and other relationships. Discovering these things had changed my life and I wanted to share the profound transformations I'd had with others. Before I knew it I was on a plane to America, to go train as a coach!
After my training, even though I had much greater self awareness, and the kind of men I was meeting had improved, I still hadn't met the right person for me. I felt like there was something missing. But I wasn’t sure what it was. So I put the coaching on the back burner, and concentrated on other things.
As I got into my thirties, online dating was becoming a big thing, so I started in earnest. Although I had a clear idea of what kind of person I was looking for, the men I chose never seemed to be quite right. Even if they appeared to be who I was looking for from their profiles, once I got to know them, there was something wrong - they were argumentative, they couldn’t have children, they always had to be right. I was attracted to their photos, their profiles, their writing style, but in real life there was something missing. I couldn’t seem to choose based on profiles. I was doing a terrible job, but I had no idea how else to meet people.